Esther Perel | Modern Love and Relationships | SXSW 2018

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100 thoughts on “Esther Perel | Modern Love and Relationships | SXSW 2018

  1. In the West, MGTOW is the way forward for men.
    Marriage is full of risks for men with very little upside. If half the assets a man has before marriage can be easily taken from him by the law because his wife no longer "loves him" and he may not even be able to see his kids. Western women have become entitled to a degree where it has become toxic.

  2. I'm 48. As a teen, I watched all of Joseph Campbell's The Power of Myth and all the rest, and, some years later, no exaggeration, DAYS of Terence McKenna. I laughed, I took copious notes, I was roused by the proximity to stories and context that changed my life. But this woman is an ayahuasca trip for all. I want to type that again. Listening to one and a half of her talks three and a half times, I'm blown away. This is where anyone who would brave an ayahuasca experience should start. I am also an initiate of OTO, have been since 1991. This woman should be heard; she speaks the words of the Goddess, as can be understood by little me.

  3. Esther your eyebrows are almost as good as the amazing insight that you have given me of myself and just how short my shortcomings in my relationships have been. Thank you!

  4. a fast solution for improving intimacy is looking in each others eyes more and slow kiss your partner every day.
    You're welcome!

  5. Esther, you could have changed history in 1971 if you were available as you are today. I would have listened. Great talk.

  6. If we are going to work toward true equality we will match our intense efforts in helping women find power and voice, with our intense efforts to help men be able to share their heart and their vulnerability. And in such we will give people, people, human beings, the opportunity to be more whole rather than defined in these very narrow binary gender constructs.

  7. The more I here her speak on this, the more it seems that she is speaking about herself and applying it to other people. And people buy into it like Scientology. I think she make some great points, but overall it's her very memorizing opinion. I know I'm one of the very rare people who thinks this, but I'm also one of the very rare people who understand how ridiculous it is to choose being a Leftist or a Right wing person.

  8. When she began utilizing the feminist definition of masculinity, I realized two fundamental things, if she's basing her perspective on a feminist narrative, of men, she knows nothing about men, and her mind is completely closed to any conception that men are far more complex and nuanced than the feminist cartoon caricature of men as a gender they have been force-feeding society for over the last 35 years.

  9. Have you heard of The Twin Flame Concept? Your dream of divine love and equality is about to come true Esther Perel.

  10. Mgtow is a women-hater movement looking to make women slaves to men, disempower us, make rape legal, leave us in poverty and despair and value us mostly by our youth and physical beauty. To hell with that sheeeet. You scrubs can sit on each other

  11. She is the goddess of relationships, hands down! I am trying to get my teenage daughter to listen to her. There is so much heartache to be saved. She’s incredible! Words come so easy to her. She’s really the relationship GURU of this century. I can only dream of one session with this master and I’m sure it would be life changing. It’s on my bucket list. She is so inspirational. How does she make so much sense? I follow her and she does not miss a beat. Doesn’t matter your background or upbringing, she’s always on point. My dream is to meet her one day.

  12. Part of the sweetness of staying together is the good times and bad times is part of an adult relationship. Selfishness (me me me) rules the day. Also womens pay continues to lag in the workplace….which limits womens life choices

  13. I am absolutely against her version that we want too much from our partners. This that is usually provide from all village in the past is very simply to be provided from 1 person now. For example if you want to visit other continent all you need is to bye a ticket. If you forgive your partner, you teach him/her to stay the same. To be married few times for the same person – there is no love, there is benefit and interests. Love don't tolerate replacement.

  14. I love Esther! She gave me lots of insight. I totally agree with her idea. If there is anyone who want to know about truth of marriage? Visit ‘SHINDI SCHOOL’ There are many things we should know about couple relationship and adult attachment!

    https://youtu.be/kyTyUmE53ok

  15. Salaam alaikum and Shalom! Esther is an amazing intellectual women, who to my oppinion is bringing the classic thoughts backt to life, like family, social life, believing in one God and the meaning of sharing a life with someone we love.
    Al hamdulillah I have come across her!

  16. What an amazing display of the English language. Well chosen powerful words like a razor. You can see how she enjoys saying them. Such a strong delivery of many of the difficult questions and ideas. Well done.

  17. In a world where there are more people on Earth than there have ever been prior to now, there are more people reporting their feelings of loneliness more than ever before.

  18. 45 seconds in and I already know this is going to be a painful listening of contrived narratives, progressive fantasy land examples and outright misrepresentation of historical and biological facts! People like this and their inverted values are the very reason why the West is rapidly dying.

  19. "Many of these things are not problems that we have to solve, but these are paradoxes that we have to manage." LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this!!!!

  20. I marry an Hispanic and he was also abused and became abusive to me, I had to divorce because I was abused too. If only he had agreed to see a therapist I think we wouldn't have to have our children go through divorce and our fights.

  21. Thank you Ester Again – I rewatched the video to see why I said -Brilliant – well I still say Brilliant, but this time I would like to add – The colonial educational structure is designed to separate individuals from their families and values and to expose them to such a myriad of disconnected subjects and philosophies that the person loses his/her personal sense of connectedness, strength and wisdom and is dependent on the professional – who forms part of the "elite to look up to" and to "believe" in cosumerism [that then feeds the broken ego] and hence break the original Divine Bond [the Soul Mate – true connection]. This "anti-religion" Western culture is driven through the militaristic English language terms we use to create the competition that drives people into loneliness and aggression [ for survival] – The term "opposite sex' drives the wedge very deep into the relationship of a couple, parents and siblings – the term "complimentary sexes" is one I use [which you calling for in this talk]. The vulnerablity of men and the need to find power in women within our "social engineered" society is what the term "opposite sex" succeeded in. The prophets PBUT were men who set the example of men who have been Guided to actualise their feminine [caring self] and their masculine [protecting self] – and that is the way truly faithful people created relationships, because they actualised charity in all spheres of life thus building true relationships through giving [which you advise here] and hence, they do not suffer loneliness [ the Soul Mate (God) is active in their divinely inspired relationship with others]. (biologically charity allows the frontal lobe [reasoning self to work well] while fears [driven basically by school examinations in early development] through isolation drive the back brain for fight, flight, and freeze – perfect for consumerism – that drive high profits] So when the faith is called into question by critical thinking we sit with crises within families and hence society breaks down to be helped by the highly profitable pharmicutical and legal industries. Yes we are educated to be dumb so that we become dependent consumers and isolated beings ready to collapse and presently held up by our phones and enormous debt. Thank you or reading it and for the wonderful work you are doing – Mogamat Faadiel

  22. Interesting talk, made some good points. Although the men and women unable to be friends thing is true for the most part, it's rarely a legitimate platonic friendship. At least one of them is usually attracted to the other and hoping for something more. They also have literally completely different brain wiring, reproductive strategies, personalities, hobbies, interests, life goals, etc. So it is quite uncommon that there is enough overlap of common interests and mutually zero sexual attraction needed for a platonic male/female friendship.

    Also, monogamy wasn't about "love" in the past and it still isn't about "love" now. It's still a business transaction.

  23. He hid the girl in the closet from his wife 🤦🏾‍♀️ https://youtu.be/exbnweN5f6k

  24. The patriarchy isnt the problem, it's the degradation of morality, the degradation of social norms and destruction of modern society by way of secular humanism.

  25. Case in point…. epidemic of single mothers, STDS, divorces…. loss of morality, loss of valuing the relationship over primordial desires.

  26. Esther, I would really love to see you talk about modern love and relationships with Jordan Peterson. I love your talks but I would love discussion about the topic. Thank you so much!

  27. Wow…what a shallow and selfish worldview she has; rooted in ignorance. No acknowledgement of the need for and benefits that come from fidelity, sacrifice, agape love, studying and serving your partner. Maybe I just missed these essentials? Also no mention of the need for stability for the children. So much focus on what is meaningless.

  28. 19:00 she starts breaking into the #heforshee bullshit. A total Man bashing session and how wrong Men are and how they need to pussify themselves so that foreign Men can walk in and shit all over your country and your way of life.
    Men stay the course your Masculinity is yours alone.
    Ladies, ladies, work until you drop dead from exhastion and fatigue. I am a Man, I love the competition the hunt the chase and the focus in business that my instincts demand. I love my masculinity you can love your therapy sessions.
    MGTOW for ever.

  29. Great understanding history of human relations and transformation of life. Wisdom and intelligence. Bravo Ester ! Thank you Israel for a great woman .

  30. Ester has just reminded me of why I choose not to be in a relationship. I've just gone through all these trials and tribulations with me, myself and I. Can I do it again?

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  32. We live in a so fast (relatively) changing world that life paradoxes result. From Dr. Bruce Lipton ,the Conscious Mind can control Creativity against the Subconscious Mind ; but the latter is much more powerful and working Subconsciously since early Childhood – is controlling one's Life through acquired bad habits . Unless One Consciously reprograms the Mind through reLearning as at early Childhood State.

  33. I think what she is not bringing up is that since the industrial revolution. We have gone to a nuclear family. >> 2 parents kids only. The extended family used to hold the couple together before. Just think about how much more stress is on the 2 people, best case scenerio?? The 2 parents have to not only financially support the kids and household, but also have to raise their kids alone. Usually this requires daycare for their kids. Which means even more financial stress and children nit raised under loving caring family
    .. when the genie got out of the bottle and we made our deal with modern conveniences, and materialism, we made our deal with the devil
    We no longer depend on family,, and interdepend on each other >>>>> but jobs and 💲💲💲💲💲. I noticed she did touch upon the tribes we used to be in. So yeah that tells you we have created 2 lonely people who have too many responsibilities and no sharing. Welcome to the material world.

  34. "For most of history the soulmate meant God." In other words, we replace God with an imperfect, limited human being. I think this is a very important point. Would anyone want to guess why?

  35. This is a woman’s perspective Quite feminist ….ignores the true nature of women …all women evolved with men for more than one hundred thousand years , that’s where their responses to stimuli were formed men too ……this is not an answer for men only a dream for women and feminine men

  36. I listen to as many as Esther's blog posts as I can. I have found many pertinent take-away's. I see her speaking to many "younger" people who appear to want to know how to find and manage a relationship. As a 68-year old married to a 74-year old husband with early cognitive decline many new questions arise and the old roles have changed. Talk about a "paradigm change" that needs to be managed…. I would like to hear her talk about this latter stage of married life and the challenges and needs at this stage.

  37. Love Esther. Her teaching is current and introspective. Listen to all her talks and read all her books. My take away is that relationship is hard. I’d better make myself better and healthier first. Also, it takes two of similar minds to walk towards similar goal or destination. There’s no point to force a partner who’s not in on it.

  38. 30:36 Because most men won't be in the future– when 80% have been rejected by women, and replaced by the technology of the Female Future.

  39. It's so amazing that somebody has so much love and empathy that come from such a history of pain and suffering and end up doing so much. Some people may think that it is horrific for me to say but if that horrible thing has never happened then you essentially would not have happened and it's everywhere if you look like that. Everybody really does have a purpose and thank God that you found yours.

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